Happy is an understatement of how I feel being able to share this post with you my lovely readers before the year ends. When my friend told me to check my mail I kept wondering what could she have sent. The last thing I expected was such a write-up which I can totally agree will have us all thinking of the changes to make come 2016. So please read and feel free to add your two cents.
MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A PROSPROUS NEW YEAR.
Have you ever been in a particular situation where someone keeps pulling you back but you can’t let go of the person because you’d feel guilty? Most times we know what is bad for us or what is stopping us from reaching the next level but can’t let go of that person or thing in our lives, because of pity. There are several situations in our lives that can pull us back or slow us down. They can be referred to as anchors. These anchors could be a boy friend or a girl friend or just a friend or a bad habit. Sometimes, a person can be an anchor in his or her own life, whether knowingly or unknowingly.
You see, there are many achievements in life and our Father in heaven has blessed each and every one of us with different gifts to attain great heights. Now there are various ways we can achieve this but that’s not my main concern today. (Figure that out yourself) Today I’m more concerned about what’s stopping us from moving forward. Let me give an illustration; Simbi is an average student in school. She’s not a dull student but still needs help. Now Simbi’s best friend Ali is not on the bright side and is very unserious with his school work. Ali needs all the help he can get to pass but doesn’t want to put in work. Simbi wants to help her best friend by all means but still has to get help from the class nerds. In the end, Simbi fails due to one simple fact. She didn’t have time to study because she was busy carrying Ali along.
It is easy to identify the anchor in Simbi’s life as Ali. Because she was so busy carrying Ali along she forgot about her own needs. Now don’t get me wrong. The lesson here isn’t that you shouldn’t help others, no! If Ali was serious with his studies, Simbi would not have failed because they would have studied together and taught each other. The lesson here however is that sometimes you have to be stingy with yourself if you want to go far in life. Don’t let people pull you back. In the end, you end up losing! Nobody wants/likes to lose!
Many of us are still with the wrong guy or girl cos we are afraid of being single. So we rather stay with the wrong person cos we are comfortable. Sometimes being comfortable doesn’t mean you are happy. If you have 10 friends and can’t do business with any, then you are in the wrong circle. A girl dating a drug addict/alcoholic will one day be pulled into that life. Some of people are afraid to shine or show their talents because others will feel they are proud! That just means the person has friends with inferior complex! Your success should motivate people around you and not make them uncomfortable. A guy dating a runs babe cos she buys him expensive gifts may end up getting AIDS or something else. A girl/guy dating someone they can’t marry is only wasting his/her time! Having friends you can’t learn anything from is useless. Moving around with some certain friends keeps us stagnant.
We were not created to be stagnant. As God’s creation we were made to keep improving ourselves! We were created for a function and not for fashion.
Nobody likes an old model of anything. If that was the case we would all be content using nokia 3310 or Motorola pebble! Lol! You don’t want to meet a friend you lost contact with ten years later and be the same way they left you! That’s why it is important to decongest our lives and get rid of the people, things or habits that are slowing us down. Don’t let the fear of losing someone keep you from exploring and building yourself (Got this quote from cinderella story but changed it up a bit) . A ship in the harbour is safe but that’s not why ships are built – John A Shedd. Ships were built to stand storms! Think of yourself as a ship today. Move against the wind because ships move faster when they go against the wind. Don’t get comfortable with being stagnant. (The reality of life though, is that some people don’t even know that their lives are stagnant! But that’s a story for another day.) Make that leap today! Sometimes God blesses us, not in what he gives but what he takes away. Don’t be whining about something that left you when deep down you know, you really didn’t need it.
This topic is more than important at this time of the year. Everyone’s gearing up for the new year and making different plans for it. In 2016, don’t let “unnecessary” anchors of life pull you down. Make important friends. People you can actually gain from and in turn they’ll gain from you too. Let the lessons be a two-way street. If you keep gaining without giving back, then they will DROP you too!! You don’t have to be Albert Einstein to impact knowledge! Better yourself. Sometimes we only attract similar minds to ourselves. So don’t be wondering why you haven’t met Dangote when you aren’t doing things to meet Dangote! Invest in yourself! Nobody is going to invest in an empty person. I’m happy to be writing this because I know someone out there has gained from this. 2016 is our year to shine and God helping us we will!! Thanks and stay blessed!!